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10 Things I Hate About You Relationship Essay

10 Things I Hate About You is a 1999 film that parallels Shakespeare's comedy, The Taming of the Shrew, set in a modern-day high school.

Directed by Gil Junger. Written by Karen McCullah Lutz and Kirsten Smith.
How do I loathe thee? Let me count the ways. (Taglines)

Katarina "Kat" Stratford[edit]

  • I hate the way you talk to me, and the way you cut your hair.
    I hate the way you drive my car, I hate it when you stare.
    I hate your big, dumb combat boots and the way you read my mind.
    I hate you so much it makes me sick — It even makes me rhyme.
    I hate the way you're always right. I hate it when you lie.
    I hate it when you make me laugh — Even worse when you make me cry.
    I hate it when you're not around. And the fact that you didn't call.
    But mostly I hate the way I don't hate you — Not even close, not even a little bit, not even at all.
  • Romantic? Hemingway? He was an abusive, alcoholic misogynist who squandered half of his life hanging around Picasso trying to nail his leftovers.
  • Remove head from sphincter, then drive!

Dr. Walter Stratford[edit]

  • Listen, I'm down, I've got the 411, and you are not going out and getting jiggy with some boy, I don't care how dope his ride is!... Momma di'nt raise no fool.
  • Kissing isn't what keeps me up to my elbows in placenta all day long!
  • No drinking, no drugs, no kissing, no tattoos, no piercings, no ritualistic animal slaughters of any kind. Oh, God, I'm giving them ideas.

Patrick Verona[edit]

  • What is it with this chick? She got beer flavored nipples?
  • It's not everyday you find a girl who'll flash someone to get you out of detention.
  • Who needs affection when I have blind hatred.
  • Don't let anyone make you feel like you don't deserve what you want.

Bianca Stratford[edit]

  • You're asking me out? That's so cute! What's your name again?
  • I happen to like being adored, thank you.
  • You don't buy black lingerie unless you want someone to see it.
  • [Punches Joey after he hurts Cameron] That's for making my date bleed. [Punches him again] That's for my sister... [Knees him to the stomach, causing Joey to collapse to the ground.] and that's for me!


Patrick: So what's your excuse?
Kat: For?
Patrick: Acting the way we do.
Kat: I don't like to do what people expect. Why should I live up to other people's expectations instead of my own?
Patrick: So you disappoint them from the start and then you're covered, right?
Kat: [smiles] Something like that…
Patrick: Then you screwed up.
Kat: How?
Patrick: You never disappointed me.

Bianca: Where did you come from? Planet Loser?
Kat: As opposed to Planet Look-at-Me, Look-at-Me?
Dr. Stratford: [claps] Ok, here's how we solve this one: Old rule out. New rule: Bianca can date [Bianca smiles, Kat with a shocked face] when she does. [points at Kat]
Bianca: But she's a mutant! What if she never dates?
Dr. Stratford: Then you'll never date. Oh I like that. And I'll get to sleep at night, the deep slumber of a father whose daughters aren't out being impregnated.

Bianca: You know, there's a difference between like and love. I mean, I like my Sketchers but I love my Prada backpack.
Chastity: But I love my Sketchers.
Bianca: That's because you don't have a Prada backpack.
Chastity: Oh.

Chastity: I know you can be overwhelmed, and you can be underwhelmed, but can you ever just be 'whelmed'?
Bianca: I think you can in Europe.

Dr. Stratford: This morning I delivered a set of twins to a fifteen-year-old girl, and you know what she said to me?
Bianca: "I'm a crack-whore who should have made my skeezy boyfriend wear a condom"?
Dr. Stratford: Close...but no. She said, "I should have listened to my father."
Bianca: She did not!
Dr. Stratford: Well, that's what she would have said if she wasn't so doped up.

Cameron: She never wanted me. She wanted Joey the whole time.
Patrick: Cameron, do you like the girl?
Cameron: Yeah.
Patrick: Yeah, and is she worth all this trouble?
Cameron: Well, I thought she was, but you know, I...
Patrick: Well, she is or she isn't. See first of all, Joey is not half the man you are. Secondly, don't let anyone ever make you feel like you don't deserve what you want. Go for it.

Dr. Stratford: Hello Katarina. Make anybody cry today?
Kat: Sadly no, but it's only 4:30.

Dr. Stratford: Where's your sister going?
Kat: She's meeting some bikers. Big ones. Full of sperm.
Dr. Stratford: Funny. [a little curious] So, tell me about this dance, was it hoppin'?
Kat: Ugh. Parts of it.
Dr. Straford: Which parts?
Kat: [laughingly] The part where Bianca beat the hell out of some guy.
Dr. Straford: Bianca did what?
Kat: What's the matter, upset that I rubbed off on her?
Dr. Straford: [proud] No, impressed.

Bianca: Ah-ha! [pulls out black underwear] Black panties!
Cameron: Well, what does that tell us?
Bianca: She wants to have sex some day, that's what!
Cameron: You know she could just like the color!
Bianca: You don't buy black lingerie unless you want someone to see it!
Cameron: So um... Can I see your room?
Bianca: No! A girl's room is very personal!

Kat: Argh! What is it: Asshole day? [As Joey walks away after blocking Kat's car in] Do you mind?
Joey: [smirking as he walks past] Not at all!
[Kat rams her car into the side of Joey's sports car]
Joey: You bitch!
Kat: Whoops!
Dr. Stratford: Whoops? My insurance does not cover PMS!
Kat: Well, then tell them I had a seizure!
Dr. Stratford: [sighs] Is this about Sarah Lawrence? Are you punishing me because I want you to stay close to home?
Kat: Aren't you punishing me because Mom left?
Dr. Stratford: Do you think you could leave her out of it?
Kat: Fine! Then stop making my decisions for me!
Dr. Stratford: You're 18! You don't know what you want! And you won't know what you want until you're 43, and even if you get it you'll be too old to use it!
Kat: I want to go to an East Coast School! I want you to trust me to make my own choices and I want you stop trying to control my life just because you can't control yours!
Dr. Stratford: Yeah? Well I want...[pager goes off] Damn! We'll talk about Sarah Lawrence later!
Kat: Can't wait!
Bianca: [runs down the stairs with the phone in her hand] Did you just maim Joey's car?
Kat: Yeah! Looks like you're gonna have to take the bus!

Teacher: Yes, Miss "I-Have-An-Opinion-About-Everything"?
Kat: Do you want this in iambic pentameter?
Teacher: [stares at Kat] You're not going to fight me on this?
Kat: No, I think it's a really good assignment.
Teacher: [chuckles] You're just messing with me aren't you.
Kat: No, I'm really looking forward to writing it.
Teacher: Get out of my class.

Kat: [about the Prom] Who would go to that antiquated mating ritual?
Mandella: I would! But I don't have a date!
Kat: Do you really want to get all dressed up so some Drakkar Noir wearing Dexter with a boner can feel you up, all while you're forced to listen to a band that, by definition, blows?
Mandella: All right, all right, we won't go. It's not like I have a dress anyway.
Kat: You're looking at this from entirely the wrong perspective! We're making a statement!
Mandella: [mockingly] Oh goody! Something new and different for us!

Patrick: I was in the laundromat, I saw your car and came over to say hi!
Kat: Hi!
Patrick: Not much of talker are you?
Kat: Depends on the topic! My fenders don't whip me into a verbal frenzy!
Patrick: You're not afraid of me are you?
Kat: Afraid of you? Why would I be afraid of you?
Patrick: Some people are.
Kat: Well I'm not.
Patrick: You may not be afraid of me but I'll bet you've thought of me naked, huh?
Kat: Am I that transparent? I want you, I NEED you. Oh baby, oh baby.

Chastity: Mr Stratford, it's just a party!
Mr Stratford: And hell is just a sauna.

Michael: Should you be drinking when you don't have a liver?
Patrick: [confused] What?
Michael: Never mind.

Patrick: You're right. She's still pissed.
Michael: Sweet love, renew thy force!
Patrick: Hey, man! Don't say shit like that to me. People can hear you.
Cameron: Look. you embarrassed the girl. Sacrifice yourself on the alter of dignity and even the score.
[Patrick walks off]
Michael: Listen. Don't say shit like that to him. People can hear you.

Mandella: Have you seen him?
Kat: Who?
Mandella: William! He asked me to meet him here!
Kat: Oh Mandella please tell me we haven't progressed onto full hallucinations!

Bianca: What are you doing here?
Chasity: Oh come on! You didn't think you were the only sophomore invited to prom! Joey just picked me up!
Bianca: Well congratulations, he's all yours!
Chasity: Very generous princess! And by the way, Joey only liked you for one thing! He even had a bet going with his friends! He was going to nail you tonight!

Patrick: None of that stuff is true.
Kat: State trooper?
Patrick: Fallacy. Uh, Dead guy in the parking lot?
Kat: Rumor. The Duck?
Patrick: Hearsay. Bobby Ridgeway's balls?
Kat: Fact. But he deserved it. He tried to grope me in the lunch line.
Patrick: Fair enough.
Kat: The accent?
Patrick: It's real. I lived in Australia until I was 10.
Kat: With the Pygmies?
Patrick: Close. With my mom.
Kat: Where were you last year? I know the porn career's a lie.
Patrick: Do you?
[Both laugh]

[Bianca punches Joey in the nose]
Joey: Shit Bianca! I'm shooting a nose spray ad tomorrow!
Bianca: That's for making my date bleed, [punches him again] That's for my sister, [knees him in crotch] and that's for me!

Patrick: [while dancing] Milwaukee.
Kat: What?
Patrick: That's where I was last year. I wasn't in jail, I don't know Marilyn Manson, and I didn’t sleep with a Spice Girl--I don’t think. You see, my grandpa, he was ill, so I spent most of the year on his couch watching Wheel of Fortune and making Spaghettios. End of story
Kat: [laughs] No way!

Kat: You can't just buy me a guitar every time you screw up, you know.
Patrick: Yeah, I know. But then, you know, there's always drums and bass and maybe even one day a tambourine.


  • How do I loathe thee? Let me count the ways.
  • Romeo, Oh Romeo, Get Out Of My Face.
  • They're spitefully romantic.


External links[edit]

Gil Junger's "10 Things I Hate About You"

10 Things I Hate About You, a film directed by Gil Junger, is a teen culture classic that is still watched nearly 20 years after its release date.  The film is based on Shakespeare’s romantic comedy, The Taming of the Shrew, but has been appropriated to suit the audience and context of 1990’s America. America at the end of the 20th century had changed significantly from the 17th century. Technology played a huge part in life (film, television, the internet etc.), the “free love” of the 60’s had evolved views on sex out of marriage and females had gained a lot of independence and power throughout the 70’s. As apposed the the first wave of feminism (1800's) which focused on legal boundaries for women, the second wave of feminism (60's-70's) sought to remove any inequalities that women experienced. The plot is based heavily on that of Shakespeare’s original, but has been heavily adapted to suit the 1990's society.  The film explores the ideas of dating, individualism and trust. In contrast to The Taming of the Shrew, the context in which 10 Things I Hate About You was created promotes female independence and control (resulting from the feminist movement), a huge societal evolution that impacts texts created so far apart. Although set in a time of feminine power, the film still results to traditional views on dating and the archetypal “knight in shining armour” that every girl should find. With previous sexist views aside, and further use of the five elements of fiction writing; plot, characters, setting, theme and style, The Taming of the Shrew has been transformed into a teenage classic, in the form of 10 Things I Hate About You.

Dating; an unavoidable element of teenage life, often something teenagers feel pressured into doing. This is no different in 10 Things I Hate About You. The film is set in a 1990's American high school, Padua Stadium High School. The use of setting by the writers of the film, Karen McCullah Lutz and Kristen Smith, are effective in expressing the obsessions 90’s teenage American’s had with labelling their relationships. In The Taming of the Shrew (created in the 1500’s), marriage is a union of relationship that the contextual society obsessed over. In 10 Things I Hate About You (released in the late 1990’s), this has been appropriated, and dating has become a form of relationship that everyone obsesses over, especially in high school. Dating is shown as a result of peer pressure, Bianca constantly states, “I’m the only girl in school that doesn’t date”. She feels pressured by her friends, and the boy that is constantly asking her on dates, to “fit in” to teenage culture. The setting, representative of the context of the film, and theme of dating constitute the basis of the plot of 10 Things I Hate About You. The film tells the story of the Stratford sisters, Michael explains “It is a widely known fact that the Stratford sisters don’t date”. Bianca desperately wants to date, but is only allowed to when Kat does. Kat doesn’t want to date, so Bianca and Cameron attempt to find someone to take Kat on a date, Patrick.
The plot of the film reaches its complication when Kat discovers that Patrick is being paid to go out with her. This is resolved after they apologise to each other, and the film finishes stereotypically happy. The film's plot borrows heavily from that of The Taming of the Shrew, following a similar structure and timeline. The plot is simple, but achieves its desired result… entertainment.

The value of individualism is another theme explored intensely throughout the film, journeying through various forms and perceptions of individualism. The character that the journey is taken through is Kat. Kat is a very strong, independent and externally confident young woman. She is cynical about many things, and does not believe she needs to conform to the vapid teenage culture that surrounds her, maintaining, “You forget I don’t care what other people think”. She particularly dislikes her sister’s willingness to fit in and tells Bianca, “You don’t always have to be what other people want you to be”. The characterisation that occurs within the film is directly linked to the extreme individualism that Kat portrays, and how it evolves as her relationship with Patrick does. Kat is the protagonist of the text, with nearly every other character appearing to be an antagonist or foil to her perfect “I don’t give a crap” world. It is evident from the opening scene of the movie, a low angle shot of Kat’s beaten up car and loud punk rock, non-diegetic music originating from it, that Kat doesn’t fit in, and appears to not care. The style of film that Gil Junger has created is not un-unique to the teenage romance genre, a fairy tale ending with bumps along the way. The tone is mainly happy, but becomes serious, as Kat doubts herself and her individualism when she gets closer to Patrick. Kat’s individualism is a representation of the freedom available to women of the western world (America, Australia, majority of Europe) in the 1990’s, oppression from a patriarchal society no longer a key issue.

The fundamental elements of relationships are common themes explored in Shakespeare’s works, and their appropriations. Just as The Taming of the Shrew investigates the importance of loyalty, 10 Things I Hate About You reconnoitres trust in relationships. The film shows evidence of both trusting relationships, and untrusting relationships. Trust is one of the major themes within the film, expressing the advantages of maintaining it within relationships. Representative of the discriminatory attitudes held towards teenagers, Mr Stratford’s lack of trust for his daughters is disappointing; as it limits the opportunities Kat and Bianca have for life lessons and chances to have some fun. The lack of trust he possess for his children is highlighted when they wish to go to a party, and before sending them off he states, “No drinking, no drugs, no kissing, no tattoos, no piercings, no ritual animal slaughters of any kind.” Mr Stratford assumes that his daughters will engage in stereotypical “teenage” activities, and has absolutely no confidence in their judgement. Trust forms the platform for all of the lasting relationships within the film – Kat and Patrick, Bianca and Cameron, Mr Stratford and his daughters.

In conclusion, the culture and context of 1990’s America influenced the appropriation of The Taming of the Shrew, to become 10 Things I Hate About You. The increase in female freedom and independence impacts heavily on the portrayal of females in the film, resulting in a film that explores themes such as trust, the value of individuality and dating. The film strays away from its misogynistic basis (The Taming of the Shrew) and strives to entertain the audiences for which it is intended, 1990’s American teenagers, by portraying common problems they would be experiencing through another perspective.  

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